Seeking Revenge: Why to Avoid It
In life, especially after being really hurt, it's really easy to resort to anger rather than sadness. I am 100% a person who finds it easier to be angry. I think as humans, we innately have this weird power struggle within us that says being hurt is a sign of weakness. As the years have gone on, I've realized this is not the case. I would never think of a someone else as a weak person for feeling hurt, so I don't really know why I default to that assumption for myself.
While this is something I am trying to work on, I am proud of one thing I do not do when I am hurt: seeking revenge. I think with social media being as strong of a presence as it is, revenge has become a source of humor and almost a bragging point for some people. I have never been that person. To me, going after someone for what he or she has done to you is the equivalent level of being wrong. Plus, I would so much rather be able to walk away from a situation with my hands clean. Wouldn't you? When you get caught up in revenge, you are just as guilty, and it's a terrible look. I'll admit, my reasoning isn't all that altruistic, but it does good overall.
When I was really young, a classmate once said, "An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind." I know she did not come up with it, but it definitely opened my eyes. How does ruining someone else's life make you look or feel better? How does that make that person any worse than you? No matter how upset or angry I am at a person, I never feel good making someone feel or look bad. I'm also a firm believer in karma, so what goes around will surely come around. Anyone who has done you wrong may actually be giving you a great opportunity to remove toxicity from your life. This is a good thing! Chances are, if this person is not a good person, other people will see this down the road and their karma will follow. Take a step back and let time do its thing. Focus on healing, now that you are rid of someone who temporarily interrupted your path to greatness!